I read an article today that really resonated with me. It summarized the principles in the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. These agreements are not easy by any stretch of the imagination, but these are items that I am going to strive to put into practice immediately, as I know they would make my life less painful and mentally taxing a lot of the time.
The article was written by Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A., a contributor of Stepmom magazine.
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word ~ No slander, gossip, maligning or being catty or unkind towards another. While it may feel good at the time, ultimately it hurts our hearts and souls wasting precious time on disparaging another human being. We look and feel better taking the higher road.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally ~ Because it rarely is about us. It is often the other person projecting what they think we represent (or don't) when it comes to their relationship with us.
3. Don't Make Assumptions ~ We tend to put people in boxes and can be stubborn about letting them out. When we assume something we react to the assumption, not the reality.
4. Do The Best You Can ~ On any given day, do the best you can, with the capacity you have for that day. The capacity is ever-changing. We are human.